Already having had numerous surgeries for Endometriosis and PCOD, as well as an early miscarriage after being put on Medications to encourage ovulation, I was told we would most likely need IVF or extra help conceiving. Paul and I decided to start trying as soon as we were married. To our surprise we got pregnant on our wedding night!!
What an awesome surprise. I felt sick, bloated and my breasts hurt! SQUEEEE! So i took a test and hooray, two lines!!! Positive!!! Who should I tell first! (Oh that’s right my husband) I wrapped up the stick and gave it to him when he got home. He was as thrilled as I was. We were both so excited to be starting a family, and both in shock too.
I was working as a Student midwife and because of my health history, we decided to go private, but only with one I knew who would be supportive of natural birth. (as you can imagine, working i saw a lot of different doctors) I was thrilled when I got in to see my favourite OBGYN Dr C. He is like the older GPs who actually care about and remember each person, baby and family he cares for, as well as supporting birth decisions.
We had our first scare at our dating ultrasound. I had some spotting at 6 weeks and had the unfortunate pleasure of an unprofessional, uncaring utrasonographer. ( I have since had amazing ones) She barely glanced at us, didn’t great me and said there’s no heartbeat. Most likely you will miscarry in a week! We were devastated. After calling Dr C in tears, he made an appointment straight away, and completely reassured us. A follow up scan the following week showed a healthy beating heart and a perfect growing baby!
After three more bleeds and threatened miscarriage work and stress was taking its toll, and I was put on bed rest until 12 weeks. I was so disappointed in not being able to complete my midwifery, but in my heart I wanted to be a mum more than anything else. After another few months, the bleeding stopped, the nausea started lessening and i was able to feel human again. I lived on spearmint milk and potato pretty much for three months straight, and throughout the entire pregnancy craved spearmint milk! (funny when in a different city for a delayed honey moon at five months and my poor husband is scouring local shops in the evening asking for spearmint milk- he found some an hour and a half later !) At my 20 week scan our precious baby was growing healthy and happy.
Now, I was severely obese to start my pregnancy journey. I had planned on trying to lose more weight before falling pregnant, and in the first few months with my near miscarriage and HG I did lose some, but once it passed I was worried my weight would affect my birth. Dr C was amazing. “you are made to birth” “you can do this” “size doesn’t matter” was told to me each appointment. He was supportive of our plans for a natural birth and using hypnobirthing. He even suggested a doula! I was lucky my best friend was also a student midwife where i was birthing, and agreed to be my doula, and my mum was hopefully going to be part of my team. He told us he was there only if needed, and that my body would do it all.
My weight did effect my pregnancy. I developed severe pain in my back, hips and bum. We ended up calling it BBH for short! My body was doing amazing, but produced excess hormones loosening my cartridge and creating a lot of pain. I saw a physiotherapist each week, but because I was so immobile, I began to put on more weight. Dr C was so supportive, and never once said I couldn’t give birth naturally. In the end he stopped weighing me because I would become so upset. By the end of my pregnancy I had put on 25 kg, but he encouraged me every step of the way. With hypnobirthing teaching me to trust my body and my amazing birth team I was so excited and ready for my labour to begin.
Part 2 next week! Labour and Birth......
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